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This morning I received some invaluable advice. I was chatting to a friend about my "to do" list (we all have one of those, right?) and I was prattling on about how "I just need to do this thing", when she said: "H ow about you re-frame your words to 'I would really love to do this thing'?" A nd in that moment my light bulb went on & I was like "OMG! Of course!" I am a huge fan of Louis Hay's work, and she teaches "The thoughts we think & the words we speak are constantly shaping our world & our experiences." ¹; in particular that "what you put your attention on grows" ² - that "the more you dwell on what you don't want, the more of it you create" ². As in, thinking "I don't want to be fat" - you stay overweight. Telling yourself "I don't want to be broke" - you stay penniless. I' ve read/heard somewhere along the way that the mind doesn't recognise th...

An excerpt from my Morning Pages last week... Yeah, I know that part of me loves it and enjoys the feeling of superiority it gives... It's nice to have your hurt feelings validated by another... But it doesn't do anyone any good. Plus, its all just speculation (about what is/will be) and reminiscing/dredging up old hurts & memories (about what happened in the past) and none of it is actually true ! Plus I don't enjoy the idea of other people talking about me , so I know it's not fair for her... It occurs to me now that if I show her love, it's showing me love... and vice versa. The same is true of contempt – the more hate I sling her way, is just throwing that shiz in my own face... And I love myself too much to want to do that to myself! Love it is then... It's a slow process, but I'm getting there. ♥

We're all familiar with the imagery of the iceberg that's used to describe the subconscious mind right? That only 10% of it sits above water - that's the bit that we see & therefore are consciously aware of - whilst the remaining 90%  that we are not consciously aware of  is sitting underwater, lurking large & perilous, ready to sink the first boat that comes along... I know that all of the memories of every single moment of my life are stored somewhere in the iceberg of my mind. I can only recall a handful of them though, so it makes me wonder what the heck happened to the rest of them? Which got me thinking about that TV show... and what if my mind is like an episode of Survivor? I' m only remembering the bits that the show producers feel are relevant to the show – the bits that are entertaining – the things that are going to hook in my ego & get my conscious mind chewing on those memories like a dog with a bone, not wanting to let go. I only get to see t...

...This was originally the text on the home page of this blog... After a while it just didn't seem to "fit" anymore, so I changed it... but I love this little story so much that I wanted to keep it.  ♥ So here's the thing: I have SO many interests in SO many different areas & I had really been struggling to figure out what this blog is going to be about... of course it doesn't help much that I keep changing my mind, either! I totally blame my Sagittarius Moon, lol. But of course, life is amazing... and just when I was about ready to give up, I find this little quote by Dr. Maya Angelou that I'd written down years ago: " Prepare yourself so you can be a rainbow in somebody else's cloud. Somebody who may not look like you, may not dance your dances, or speak your language... but be a blessing to somebody ." A nd that's what I'd like to be: a rainbow in somebody else's cloud. P lus, I'm a huge fan of rainbows! ♥